You get home late from work, feeling tired and chances are the last thing on your mind is getting intimate with your partner. Before long this can become a pattern of behavior and next thing you know, you find that the passion has gone from your relationship or marriage. It is all too easy to slip into routines that end up letting you drift apart from your love, even leading to infidelity as one or other partner seeks to find some spark elsewhere.
So how do you stop this happening and rebuild the passion in your relationship?
You can’t be intimate and rediscover the passion if you are still upset about the washing up not being done, so the first thing to do is reconnect emotionally. You need to start communicating your feelings to each other in a non-judgmental open way. Don’t cast blame or start pointing fingers, but instead let your thoughts come from a place of love and work together to solve issues. Being kind, generous and compassionate will help with this, as well as beginning to build back the bond between you.
Get rid of the resentment and start working together again.
Make sure you give each other the time to get ready for love. If your partner has just got in from a stressful day at work or spent the day looking after the kids, they may not feel like having sex. However, there is nothing wrong with planning. A lot of times people talk about spontaneity as if it is the be-all and end-all of passionate relationships, but actually, a little planning and anticipation for a special evening can help fan the flames! Read more…