There is a real difference between an unhealthy and a healthy relationship, yet it isn’t always easy to tell the difference. Love or attraction isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship, and they certainly don’t necessarily mean that yours is healthy. So, how can you tell how healthy your own relationship is? In fact, how would you rate your relationship on a scale of 1 to 10? Is your relationship perfect, or are there a few things that need working on?
It can be tough to rate your own relationship, but fortunately, we came across a set of factors that can be taken as a scale from 1 to 10. They were created by relationship expert David Essel, and show a useful way to assess your own relationship to see how healthy it is.
At the lowest two levels are the most dysfunctional relationships. In these relationships, there is often a lot of abuse, which can be emotional or physical. There could well be name calling, ignoring, real violence or threats. Addiction is another common trait of these relationships – whether that is substance-based or behavioral. There may well be anger or depression too. Read more…